after jin shin, i was telling deborah about my complaining to mitchell and how it's gotten out of hand. it has become like tourettes... and it's not just the kvetching either, it's my need to share the dream i had last night or what the guy at the bank said to me this morning, and the myriad of family dramas...and then there's the aggravation i "share" when he doesn't respond.
i don't want to keep doing it. i like things better when we get along, when there's more give and take. i try to remind myself: ask about his day, and listen like i used to - and stop adding my two cents...but too often, i forget...
deborah said i should start calling and texting her when i feel the need. kind of like an aa sponser. nice offer, but she'd be on her phone all day with me. so on the way home i started thinking that there must be an awful lot of us complainers around, and i'm sure there's an equal amount of spouses who would be happier if their partners had somewhere else to go with that stuff.
i imagined the meeting - each person sharing their aches and pains and wrongful parking tickets while the rest of the group nods and says things like "i'm sorry, that sounds terrible"...
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